Past: Gone by in time; no longer existing.
You would think the past is just that, The. Past. But unfortunately, people don't like to let you forget your hiccups in life. And in other cases, we won't let go of our past. I mean everyone has a past and if you don't think you do, you haven't grown out of your past....
My question is simple, yet complex all at the same time. Let me break it down...as you can see above is the definition of the word "Past", it is something that has gone by (past tense) in time which in other words means, no longer existing. Now if something is past tense, that means it's already happened/ taken place, it's outdated and it may or may not even be relevant anymore.
Having said that, why do you think people hold on to the past of other's? And better yet, why can't we let ourselves free from our past and know that, that was just a stage in our lives and not who we are?
I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.
The past is a part of you. It helps to shape you into the person you are today like a reference book. We learn from it and grow. The bible is an item from the past yet we can still use it to relate to our lives now.
ReplyDeleteYes, you are absolutely right! But I was thinking about mistakes that maybe you have made, and how people won't let you live that down....how do you deal with that?
DeleteYes everybody does have a past but once you've genuinely repented and sought out God's forgiveness, you are free! Regardless of if people still hold on to the "old you" is not of your concern. Pray for those who still hold on to your past mistakes because they have yet learned how to be merciful and gracious toward others. Once God forgives you for your past, everyone else is irrelevant. If the problem is you, you have to forgive yourself. Allow yourself to understand that you are human and everyone makes mistakes. If the Most High has already forgiven you, why would you keep chains on yourself that have already been released?
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This!!!! WOW...great Shy. Thank you for commenting.
DeleteHmmm great question! How do I handle it? Well, I first have to admit that I didn't handle it very well for a while. I felt guilty all the time but then under the mentorship of my pastor, I let it go. I let go the person, the situation and I forgave myself. I knew that they hadn't let the past be the past but I made up my mind to be the bigger person. Truth is, people may still hold on to the bad pieces of you but you cannot control that. All you can do is control your reaction and how you treat yourself. It doesn't mean that it won't hurt from time to time, it just means that you allow it to strengthen you as you keep moving forward.
ReplyDeleteYou are exactly right, and that's my motto...if someone has a problem or issue with you, it's not your problem to be concerned with...it's theirs. Thank you for commenting.
DeleteIt's all about change, most people can't comprehend what change entails because they like things to stay the same. For people not to let you live the past down is because they don't understand the value in change or they don't want to see you do better than they are because they never saw fit to change. It's the way of life, you'll always have those people that live in the past and won't let another person change for the better because that's all they choose to know. Now does everyone deserve the benefit of the doubt when it comes to changing from the past, yes. But you also have to use some kind of discretion because not everyone really changes, they go back to living on the past. It is a tricky subject when dealing with the past because a lot of people try to escape it for the better but most choose to stay there and not really want to leave because that's what they feel comfortable with.
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