A few days ago I came across a video of a young woman who was speaking on how black women should do better. This video wasn't slandering on the black woman, because I wouldn't have gone for that AT ALL. But, it was just stating how we need to uplift each other and stand together because everyone knows, divided WE fall. She touched on how we compete with each other, don't give compliments or props when they are due, and even the dirty looks when we see each other in passing. I loved this video merely for her courage to address the situation and bring it to light when WE sweep it under the rug.

 

I knew I wanted to write about it and give my two cent but put the idea on the back burner until this past Saturday night.

 

For those who don't know, I am a Event Coordinator. And this past Saturday I coordinated an event at a event hall that had multiple events going. While I was standing in the hall of the venue gathering my guest inside our venue room, I saw a stunning black woman sashaying towards me. She was leaving one of the events that was also taking place. She was tall, her hair was flawlessy up in a top knot bun and her face was beat to the God's!

 

I smiled at her as she got closer, only to have her side eye me and roll her eyes as she stuck her nose up in the air. She looked at one of my guest and myself as if we were scum under her shoe, as if we were the help, as if I had stole the guy she was walking with, as if I told her she smelled of salami and vinegar....ok, you guys get the point. LOL I was so taken back by this, because I had just watched a video on this very thing.

 

I was actually kind of hurt because, some of us will never get it. As black women, we are the most disrespected people. At birth we already have two strikes against us: 1. We are female 2. We are black. We have to be better than the best to make it in this world. Our own black kings don't respect us. Listen to the music...it's always Bitch this or hoe that and we glorify this music, these rappers, and society by doing what? Overlooking it and bobbing our heads to the music. I will admit, I was one of them bobbing and even singing the lyrics but I didn't get it then....not the way I get it now.

 

I don't have children but one day I will, whether they will be male or female I will teach them the importance of unity in the black community so maybe one day they can go out into the world and make a difference.

 

I know some people reading this won't get it or will somewhat understand but won't change their outward manifestations and if this is the case, I guess they really just don't get it....but I hope we as black sisters can correct our attitudes towards each other and realize that just because the next black woman is shining and doing well, doesn't mean that your light has to dim. If anything, use it as a torch to reignite your own. Always lift up the next person because divided we fall.

 

Love,

 

Your Black Sister

 

If you are interested in the video......https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipGjLEGcIVo

By The Way....

I would like to take the time out to show case my cousin....I won't say her name but I know she reads my blogs...My cousin is about to graduate with her Masters! She has had ups and downs but she has always remained focused and resilient. I want to let her know, how proud of her I am. She doesn't know this, but I look up to her as a woman. I also would like to congratulate her on her One Year Anniversary of being apart of Delta Sigma Theta!

Moving Up and Out!

 

Also on my hiatus, Honey and I decided to actively look for places to live.....together...as a couple...we will be a couple who lives together....FINALLY.

 

This has been something I have been wanting to do for a while but timing is everything and as I get older I see that phrase a little more clearly now. But yes, it's official! We have been to six different properties and we have seen some we like, love and totally hate!

 

I am not the traditional southern girl. I don't believe in waiting to co-habitat with someone when you are married, I respect those that do wait. But I need to know how you living before I sign on the dotted line. But that's just me!

 

So, hopefully by summer we can begin a life together as adults. I am so excited. Spending the night is so different than living with someone and I hope we will make it through lol I am very anal with the way I keep my house, and I hope he can transition....happy wife, happy life....well, maybe that phrase will be official sooner than later but you guys get what I am saying.

 

This has been a very fun experience thus far. Not only have we checked out new places, but we have discussed décor options and you know I have been looking to purchase new furniture. Honey honestly always allows me free range to do all of these things, his only request is that I don't make it too girly...once again, I remind him I am not the traditional southern girl who has to be all matchy matchy...not my style at all. I am/we are more contemporary and modern. We have been watching a lot of HGtv and getting ideas on some diy things that we can do to make our space one of a kind and our own.

 

However, I have found some furniture that he and I will like that has a metro feel to it. And I guess once we officially decide on them, I will do post about our place and the décor we chose to go with. One item that I have to make is a shot ski! I don't drink like that but I think that would be so cool to have for when we have gatherings. And if you don't know what a shot ski is, then maybe we will invite you over to use ours! lol

 

Right now though.....Life is amazing and I am on cloud 9.

Hiatus

 

So, unfortunately I have had roughly about a two month hiatus from my blog but with good reason. A lot has been going on in my personal life and honestly...I just haven't had the time to write....better yet, made the time to write. (I won't sugar coat it because I am a firm believer that people make time for the things that are important to them.)

 

Anyway to update you guys, I enjoyed the Chris Brown concert! I screamed like a young high school girl in heat! I danced and sung all the songs along with my girlfriend Bre! You can see us pictured together in the bottom left corner as well as at the top with some of my friends I saw there. And you can definitely see BREEZY in the middle...with the tightest jeans he owns on! Insert scream right about...............HERE! It was a very good BUT short show....I guess since Trey Songz backed out, it was shorter than what it would have been.....not pressed because I didn't want to see him anyway. I wasn't a fan of Tyga (Who may or may not date a child....lol) but he was full of energy which made the show really good.

 

Honey and I have been hanging out with friends lately and we just added another couple friend to our list. Remember way back when, when I told you guys about my very first friend? Well we have been in contact and even got our beau's together for a night of hanging out....couples edition. And we are pictured together at the top. It's really nice meeting positive and upbeat people and in my case I guess I have always known her....we just started back talking...but you get what I am saying.

 

My dad and I went on a daddy/daughter date rock climbing and boy was the funny! Of course I climbed to the top of everything minus one wall because I just cannot figure out how to maneuver that one. But my dad was so funny to watch because that was his first time. I really enjoyed that day and I want to do more things like that with my parents. I really don't see my mom doing the whole rock climbing bid but if she does I am definitely documenting it and posting it on here! lol

 

Unfortunately everything was all smiles and laughs on my hiatus from the blog. One of the three Great Grandmothers that I have passed away. (The poem pictured is one that I read at her service) I hadn't seen her in a long time and about two to three weeks before she passed, God provided an opportunity for me to see and talk to her as well has some of my aunt's I have not seen in awhile. That was nothing but a blessing! I am so glad that I had that opportunity to spend that small amount of time with her. On a lighter note, I showed her a picture of Honey and she said, "He is CUTE!" LOL I died laughing but then came back and made a joke, telling her to not to try to steal him away from me lol We all laughed. I only wish he wasn't away on business the two weeks following, so I could bring him to meet her. But I know she sees him now and hopefully she likes him.

 

I also was afforded the opportunity to showcase my event planning skills in this expo! Which is the photo of the mock sweetheart table. I am the preferred event planner at a event hall! Whoop whoop! Go head with my bad self! And I am working on a second. My business has been flourishing and I am nothing but blessed! However, I did also pick up a part-time Counseling position....might as well use my degree! lol

 

And this past weekend I hung out with some ladies that brought me out of my shell in college. I talk about my fairy blog mother and business guru on here and she has finally reached some of her goals in life and that was the cause of the celebration/reunion. I love each of these women ever so much! We may not talk all the time, but when we get together you would never know! I am so proud of the women we have become and the women we will be destined to be. Love you ladies with all my heart! We all are pictured in the top left corner......and actually that is an amazing candid shot, so no we didn't know Alisha was taking that pic in the back!.....once we realized it, we may or may not have retaken it! LOL Mind yall's business and let us be GREAT!

 

So as you can see my hiatus was needed. And a lot has happened but for blog purposes I will keep it cute!

 

One Love.