A few days ago I came across a video of a young woman who was speaking on how black women should do better. This video wasn't slandering on the black woman, because I wouldn't have gone for that AT ALL. But, it was just stating how we need to uplift each other and stand together because everyone knows, divided WE fall. She touched on how we compete with each other, don't give compliments or props when they are due, and even the dirty looks when we see each other in passing. I loved this video merely for her courage to address the situation and bring it to light when WE sweep it under the rug.
I knew I wanted to write about it and give my two cent but put the idea on the back burner until this past Saturday night.
For those who don't know, I am a Event Coordinator. And this past Saturday I coordinated an event at a event hall that had multiple events going. While I was standing in the hall of the venue gathering my guest inside our venue room, I saw a stunning black woman sashaying towards me. She was leaving one of the events that was also taking place. She was tall, her hair was flawlessy up in a top knot bun and her face was beat to the God's!
I smiled at her as she got closer, only to have her side eye me and roll her eyes as she stuck her nose up in the air. She looked at one of my guest and myself as if we were scum under her shoe, as if we were the help, as if I had stole the guy she was walking with, as if I told her she smelled of salami and vinegar....ok, you guys get the point. LOL I was so taken back by this, because I had just watched a video on this very thing.
I was actually kind of hurt because, some of us will never get it. As black women, we are the most disrespected people. At birth we already have two strikes against us: 1. We are female 2. We are black. We have to be better than the best to make it in this world. Our own black kings don't respect us. Listen to the music...it's always Bitch this or hoe that and we glorify this music, these rappers, and society by doing what? Overlooking it and bobbing our heads to the music. I will admit, I was one of them bobbing and even singing the lyrics but I didn't get it then....not the way I get it now.
I don't have children but one day I will, whether they will be male or female I will teach them the importance of unity in the black community so maybe one day they can go out into the world and make a difference.
I know some people reading this won't get it or will somewhat understand but won't change their outward manifestations and if this is the case, I guess they really just don't get it....but I hope we as black sisters can correct our attitudes towards each other and realize that just because the next black woman is shining and doing well, doesn't mean that your light has to dim. If anything, use it as a torch to reignite your own. Always lift up the next person because divided we fall.
Love,
Your Black Sister
If you are interested in the video......https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipGjLEGcIVo
By The Way....
I would like to take the time out to show case my cousin....I won't say her name but I know she reads my blogs...My cousin is about to graduate with her Masters! She has had ups and downs but she has always remained focused and resilient. I want to let her know, how proud of her I am. She doesn't know this, but I look up to her as a woman. I also would like to congratulate her on her One Year Anniversary of being apart of Delta Sigma Theta!
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